The New Yorker:

The band members discuss when to leave a relationship, hoping people slide into their D.M.s, and their new album, “I Quit.”

By Amanda Petrusich

This month, Haim—a three-piece rock band from Los Angeles, featuring the sisters Danielle, Alana, and Este Haim—will release “I Quit,” its fourth album and a carnal, sure-footed rebuttal of the idea that our lives should orbit around some eternal romantic commitment. Haim has always been interested in the ways that relationships transform, burn out, or begin anew; the band’s best songs address all the clumsy and complicated intermediary feelings, that vast and chaotic stretch of road between “No, thanks” and “I do.” On “Now I’m in It,” a tense, pulsating single from the 2020 album “Women in Music Pt. III,” Danielle sings about the impossibility of the entire enterprise, how we move helplessly from being strangers to lovers and then back again, often obliterating ourselves along the way: “We cannot be friends / Cannot pretend / That it makes sense,” she chants, her voice high and breathless.

“I Quit,” which was co-produced by Danielle Haim and Rostam Batmanglij, is about submitting to the wild and mercurial whims of the universe—accepting that we can’t control when love comes, or when it goes. In a way, the album’s primary feeling is one of deep relief. Perhaps it takes breaking out of something to understand the myriad ways in which it was suffocating you. (Danielle was previously in a nearly decade-long relationship with Ariel Rechtshaid, a producer on the band’s first three albums.) On “Gone,” a quivering, spacey rock song that samples the ecstatic chorus of George Michael’s “Freedom! ’90”—Haim has never been particularly subtle—Danielle preaches liberation: “I’ll do whatever I want / I’ll see who I wanna see / I’ll fuck off whenever I want.” “Gone” features a spindly and unencumbered guitar solo. Over and over, Danielle makes the case for just leaving:

You can hate me for what I am
You can shame me for what I’ve done
You can’t make me disappear
You never saw me for what I was.

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